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The Continuum Concept: In Search of Lost Happiness by Jean Liedloff [by Elissa]

Sat, 04 Apr 2009 17:35:56 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: The Continuum Concept: In Search of Lost Happiness by Jean Liedloff

This book is an absolute Must-Read! If you are planning on having children, please read this book! If you are unhappy in your life but don't know why, over-react to little things, have trouble waiting for anything, Please read this book!�

Here are some basics and quotes, hopefully with enough context to be helpful:�

1. Babies shouldn't have to cry, as one mother states, "He doesn't have to cry, he just grunts and reaches�" (p.x)�

2. Babies need constant contact, not constant attention. "Babies that don't have this are keyed up with undischarged energy from spending so much time out of contact with an active person's natural discharging energy field." (p.x)�

3. This doesn't mean parents should be overly permissive. "If permissive parents do not distinguish between desirable and undesirable acts, the child often behaves more interruptively and disruptively." (p.xv) This refers to older children, not children in their first 2 years.�

4. Children do not need to be the center of attention. "her real need for them to be engaged in living their own lives as adults, with her in the midst." (p. xvi)�

5. Deprived children, deprived of the first 2 years of in-arms experience, can end up living one's life "in the self-imposed equivalent of a prison yard," (p.xvii) because the fear cuts off freedom of action.�

6. Our needs are not met, as opposed to the "character defects" concept of the 12 steps: "In light of the continuum concept, a person seeking help is an inherently 'right' creature whose species-specific needs have not been met and whose precisely evolved expectations may have been greeted and treated with self-righteous denial or condemnation by those whose role should have been to respect and fulfill them."�

7. "I hope that this new edition� will help to allow 'unimpeachable instinct' increasingly to inform our very suspect ideology." (p. xix)�

8. Visiting people in other cultures, she noticed, "the unreal quality of its people was accounted for by an absence of unhappiness � they did not distinguish work from other ways of spending time."�

9. We don't need to be unhappy to be happy: We need to un-learn the idea that "unhappiness is as legitimate a part of experience as happiness and necessary in order to render happiness appreciable."�

10. She observed people who would use modern technology when helpful, but would not be willing to 'do any work they did not enjoy, nor pursue a task after it had become tedious' to get them.�

11. "We are now fairly brought to heel by the intellect; our inherent sense of what is good for us has been undermined to the point where we are barely aware of its working and cannot tell an original impulse from a distorted one."�

12. As a result of our needs not being met, especially the first 2 years, we experience "resignation as a result of utter hopelessness" and this "serves to numb the original expectation that conditions will be found in which the sequence of expectations and fulfillments may proceed. "�

13. If a baby is left to cry for too long, they experience "utter bleakness without time or hope."�

14. Without the experience needed the first 2 years, a person is "crippled by a lack of confidence of a full sense of self, of spontaneity of grace. "�

15. "What a baby encounters is what [it] feels the nature of life to be. Each later impression can only qualify to a greater or lesser degree, the first impression, made when he had no previous data on the external world."�

It's really, really worth reading the book! I've just pulled out some key concepts� On a final note, and particularly relevant to Community of Healers: "Being the animals we are, we cannot but tend toward fulfilling our expectations no matter how irrational a tangle our combinations of deprivations make of our actual behavior�More direct use of continuum principles, however, is indicated. There is reason to believe that the missing experiences can be supplied to children and adults at any stage. "�

Here's a button to buy "The Contunuum Concept".

The New Oxford Annotated Bible, College Edition [by Jill]

Tue, 17 Feb 2009 16:33:37 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: The New Oxford Annotated Bible, College Edition

Although this translation makes the same grievous error as almost others - using the words God and Lord as blanket words to cover what are actually different source words in the original text, it has very helpful notes that are indispensable for understanding the nature of the text and it's origins.�

So, as far as Bibles, go, I wanted to write this review for anyone studying this book.

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Meta Modern Era by Mataji Shri Nirmala Devi, 1997 [by Jill]

Tue, 17 Feb 2009 16:30:02 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: Meta Modern Era by Mataji Shri Nirmala Devi, 1997

Although this book is dedicated to 'all the seekers of absolute truth', it is filled with what is the author's negativity and cultural bigotry. That's about all I have to say about it. It was very disappointing.�

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Re: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay [by Elissa]

Sun, 08 Feb 2009 21:23:26 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
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Re: Many Roads One Journey by Charlotte Davis Kasl [by Elissa]

Sun, 08 Feb 2009 21:14:34 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: Many Roads One Journey by Charlotte Davis Kasl
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Re: Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood [by Elissa]

Sun, 08 Feb 2009 21:04:19 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood
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Re: Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw [by Elissa]

Sun, 08 Feb 2009 20:55:46 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: Home Coming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
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Re: Cycles of Power by Pamela Levin [by Elissa]

Sun, 08 Feb 2009 20:51:46 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: Cycles of Power by Pamela Levin
Hi.�

I'm adding links to books so in case someone wants to purchase the book, we'll get a few pennies to support this site.�

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"Positive Imaging" by Norman Vincent Peale, 1982 [by Elissa]

Sun, 08 Feb 2009 20:26:41 -0000

Book and Media Reviews and Summaries:: "Positive Imaging" by Norman Vincent Peale, 1982

This book helped me quit smoking about 20 years ago. It is based on the same ancient principles at the popular movie "The Secret".

Mr. Peale starts out the book with 3 ideas:

"Bend the laws of probability with the power if imaging. Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, you can achieve. Write down what you want to do with your life."

Every human being has an enormous problem-solving potential built into them.
Problems are an essential and necessary ingredient of life.
The basic tools of problem solving are available to anyone.

Refreshingly, Peale actually has a chapter titled "How Imaging Helps to Bolster a Shaky Ego." He goes on to discuss topics such as money problems, outwitting worry, loneliness, health, marriage, forgiveness, tension, and self-image.

3 steps are suggested for success: 1. Write your Goal, 2. Believe you can Reach it, 3. Image it.

Just reviewing this book to do write up this review cheered me up! I would highly recommend it.

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